Hiii guys, I told you I would start including real life issues here after getting permission from people who have sent me emails in the past. Well, this email was sent directly to me after the Abuja Marriage post, and he has asked me to publish it. My brothers and sisters, please help a brother out. He needs your unbiased opinions. After reading the email, you’ll understand the Post Title.
Hello Mrs Chidinma, I came across your blog from a comment on Linda’s blog and I decided to send you this message to get a reaction from your members. My case is special because we always hear about men treating women bad. I will try to be very honest in remembering all that has happened so far.
My wife and I have been married for 8 years now and we have 2 daughters. For the first 6 plus years everything was okay. The only thing I didn’t like was that my wife’s mother moved in with us. I was working daily and because I didn’t really see her everytime, I didn’t let it disturb me too much.
I lost my job over a year ago and since then the person I called my wife has turned into a monster. Things started becoming tight for us and I went to South Africa to do odd jobs and be sending money home. After 5 months my brother called me and said I should come home because things were going bad. On getting back I discovered that my wife has sold my car without telling me. When I confronted her, she and her mother insulted me saying since I couldn’t provide like a man, she had to take matters into her own hand. I was sending her $1,000 every month for 4 months I was in SA.
My brother did not even know that part of the story, he said I should come home because my wife was trying to sell my land which was adjoining his own. He just started developing his own and someone came to tell him that the next one (my own) was for sale at a cheap rate. He knew I wasn’t around, and he knew I would have told him if I was selling it. In fact, I really thank God for the head of a police command here in Lagos who helped get my documents back from her mother’s brother who was the agent to sell the land.
Now my parents and siblings want me to go back to SA to start life again, but how do I leave my children? She is already turning them against me, so what happens when I’m not even around? I’m still in the guest room of our house, and she even disconnected the DSTV from the room because she paid this month’s subscription.
The email is longer than this, but I trimmed off the greetings and some repetitive details. My mouth hook for the matter. Everyone has issues, but when you think say na your own bad pass, you now hear something like this. If this is true, e tire me.
Please, help the guy o.